URGENT UPDATE: In a heartwarming yet poignant turn of events, Casey Beros has released her new book, Next of Kin, inspired by her father’s battle with mesothelioma. Diagnosed at the age of 66 due to asbestos exposure, Jack Beros’ illness prompted Casey to relocate her family from Sydney to Perth to provide care, ultimately leading to profound personal and familial transformation.
Just announced, Casey’s book details not only her experiences but also serves as a practical guide for others in similar situations—those navigating the challenges of the “sandwich generation,” simultaneously caring for aging parents while raising children. With 11.9 percent of Australians identified as carers in 2024, her insights resonate with many, offering vital information for those balancing caregiving with their own responsibilities.
Casey’s journey unfolded amidst the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, allowing her husband to maintain his teaching job remotely, which made their transition easier. In her book, she emphasizes the importance of being present for elderly loved ones, even from afar, stating, “You can do pretty much everything virtually; you can be dialled in to any [medical] consultation.” This perspective highlights the evolving nature of caregiving in our digital age, making it relevant for readers today.
Throughout her father’s illness, Casey documented their conversations and experiences, transforming her grief into a resource for others. She insists on the necessity of becoming a “powerful player” in the healthcare system, encouraging caregivers to ask questions and advocate for their loved ones. “They’re allowed to ask for a second opinion,” she emphasizes, underscoring the need for strong relationships with healthcare professionals.
In a deeply emotional reflection, Casey shares how her father’s passing at home allowed her to feel a sense of pride and closure. “I felt very, very proud that we were able to deliver that for him,” she said. Her story is filled with raw honesty about the complexities of caregiving, shedding light on the feelings of “shame, disappointment, and guilt” that often accompany such roles. Yet, she remains resolute in her approach, stating, “We said all of the things, we did all of the things … I don’t have any regrets. That is a real gift.”
Despite the challenges, Casey acknowledges the toll caring for her father took on her personal health, revealing, “I lost too much weight and was living off adrenaline.” She stresses the importance of self-care, warning others about the dangers of burnout. “Respite is the only antidote to burnout. Have some sort of respite plan,” she advises, emphasizing that caregivers must prioritize their own well-being.
After two and a half years of caring for Jack, Casey and her family have chosen to remain in Perth, surrounded by family, including her mother and their two young daughters. “That was … a gift that dad gave. He brought me home to be with my siblings, to be with my grandparents,” she reflects. This move not only strengthened family bonds but also provided Casey with a slower, more fulfilling lifestyle—one she never anticipated but now cherishes.
Next of Kin, published by Wiley Publishing, is out now, offering essential insights for caregivers navigating similar challenges. As Casey Beros shares her story, it serves as both a tribute to her father and a lifeline for others walking the same path. Readers are encouraged to explore this compelling narrative that combines personal reflection with practical advice, making it a must-read for today’s caregivers.
