If someone close to you has attempted suicide, it is common to feel scared and overwhelmed. According to recent data, more than one in three Australians have been close to someone who has died by or attempted suicide. Supporting a loved one during this difficult time can be challenging, but your presence and care can significantly impact their recovery.
Understanding the Emotional Landscape
The days and weeks following a suicide attempt are often filled with intense emotions for both the individual and their loved ones. The person who attempted suicide may experience feelings of guilt, shame, anger, confusion, or even relief. Meanwhile, you may feel a mix of worry, shock, and helplessness.
It is vital to recognize that all these feelings are normal. There is no “right” way to respond to such a situation. What matters most is maintaining connection and offering support, even in small ways.
How to Provide Emotional Support
Acknowledging the suicide attempt is essential. Avoiding the topic can contribute to feelings of stigma and isolation. However, you do not need to delve into details unless your loved one chooses to share. It is perfectly acceptable to express uncertainty about what to say; simply being present can be immensely comforting.
Do not rush conversations. If your loved one is not ready to talk, allow them to set the pace. It is crucial to avoid statements that may induce guilt or blame. Instead of saying, “How could you do this to us?” try expressing, “I’m really glad you’re still here. I care about you.”
Reassurance is vital. Let them know that they are not alone and that seeking help is a sign of strength.
In addition to emotional support, practical assistance can make a significant difference. Offer help with daily tasks, such as attending appointments, preparing meals, or tidying up their living space. Encourage engagement in enjoyable activities, but do not force participation. If you are unsure how to assist, ask them directly: “What would make today a bit easier for you?”
If they appear withdrawn or claim “nothing will help,” do not take it personally. They may be feeling overwhelmed. Small gestures, such as dropping off a meal without expecting a response, can provide comfort.
Recognizing the Need for a Support Network
Supporting someone after a suicide attempt can be emotionally taxing. You may find yourself in a state of constant alertness, watching for signs of further distress. This heightened awareness is normal, but it is crucial to remember that you do not have to shoulder this responsibility alone.
One person cannot serve as the sole support network. While your care is invaluable, professional help from psychologists, doctors, or counselors is essential. Involve other trusted individuals—friends, family, or teachers—who can provide additional support. Ask your loved one who they would like to include in their support network.
If there are concerns about the possibility of another suicide attempt, mental health professionals can help create a safety plan. This plan outlines steps to take if suicidal thoughts resurface and typically includes warning signs, strategies to reduce immediate risks, and resources for support. The app called Beyond Now, provided by Lifeline, facilitates the creation and sharing of a personalized safety plan.
Taking Care of Your Well-Being
The emotional toll of supporting someone after a suicide attempt can be considerable. Feelings of anxiety, sadness, or guilt may arise, along with potential disruptions to sleep and appetite. It is essential to prioritize your own well-being during this time.
Make time for self-care—maintain a healthy diet, seek rest, engage in physical activity, and converse with trusted individuals about your feelings. You do not need to share private details about your loved one to receive the support you require.
If the situation feels overwhelming, consider speaking with a doctor or therapist. Your general practitioner can help develop a mental health treatment plan, which may include accessing subsidized counseling services. Remember, if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, help is available 24/7.
Understanding the Recovery Journey
Recovery following a suicide attempt is not linear; it varies for each individual. This journey may involve professional support, medication, adjustments to daily routines, or time away from work or school. Rebuilding trust and emotional well-being takes time and often includes ups and downs.
Patience and compassion—both for your loved one and yourself—can make all the difference. Remember, you are not alone, and resources are available to help navigate this challenging experience.
For immediate support, reach out to these organizations:
– Lifeline Australia: Call 13 11 14 or text 0477 13 11 14
– Beyond Blue: Call 1300 22 4636 or visit their website
– Suicide Call Back Service: Call 1300 659 467
– 13YARN: A 24/7 national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people—call 13 92 76
– WellMob: Offers a list of culturally safe mental health organizations for First Nations people
By taking these steps and seeking help, both you and your loved one can work towards healing and recovery.
