Scott Galloway, a marketing lecturer and influential commentator, has stirred significant discussion with his latest book, Notes on Being a Man. In this work, he asserts that men and boys are facing a crisis characterized by loneliness, economic instability, and emotional distress. Galloway argues that the challenges confronting young men are exacerbated by an educational system he views as biased against them, and by societal perceptions that regard traditional masculinity as harmful.
In his book, Galloway contends that many young males are “unbearably lonely” and “not economically viable.” He highlights alarming statistics, suggesting that their struggles are reflected in rising rates of school dropout, family abandonment, and suicide. “There is nothing more dangerous than a lonely, broke young man,” he writes, emphasizing the urgent need to address these issues, particularly in a society increasingly dominated by social media and violence.
Galloway’s Call to Embrace Masculinity
Galloway’s perspective challenges long-standing feminist views on gender equality by arguing for a return to positive aspects of masculinity. He firmly states, “There is no such thing as toxic masculinity,” asserting that behaviors like cruelty and bullying should not be conflated with masculinity itself. Instead, he believes that men should embrace their roles as protectors, providers, and procreators.
His views come at a time when discussions around masculinity are evolving. The re-election of Donald Trump, known for embodying traditional male leadership, has renewed interest in concepts of chivalry and masculinity. Yet, on university campuses, a counter-movement has emerged, teasing the notion of “performative man,” where young men parody emotional sensitivity in humorous ways. This trend, observed in cities like San Francisco, Toronto, and London, aims to foster connections between men and women in a dating landscape increasingly dominated by online interactions.
As the world observes the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women, discussions around the intersection of male identity and violence become even more pressing. Recent statistics from the NSW Government reveal that 11 percent of men in New South Wales admit to having forced a partner into sex. The data, derived from a study by The Men’s Project, also indicates that a significant number of men and boys reject traditional male stereotypes, yet many still grapple with feelings of inadequacy and thoughts of suicide.
Addressing Male Mental Health and Relationships
Galloway emphasizes the importance of helping men form emotional bonds and find a sense of purpose. He identifies causes of male stress, including professional setbacks and difficulties in establishing intimate relationships. “Men should always strive to make women feel safe,” he asserts, underlining the potential link between self-worth and domestic violence.
His personal journey adds depth to his arguments. Galloway reflects on his past as a “bottom-of-the-class” student and a struggling entrepreneur. He attributes his resilience to the lessons learned from numerous failures, stating that “the only thing remarkable about me was my willingness to endure repeated failure.” His mother’s dedication to instilling values in him, despite their challenges, remains a central theme in his narrative.
In contemporary discussions of masculinity, Galloway notes that modern character-building often downplays the importance of sexual relationships. The rise of consent education, particularly in Australia, has fostered an environment where young men may feel ashamed or fearful of pursuing relationships. This, he argues, complicates their ability to connect with women and undermines their confidence.
Galloway maintains that the pursuit of sex should be viewed positively. He argues that it fosters personal growth and motivates young men to improve themselves. “The pursuit of sex is healthy, noble and wonderful,” he writes, asserting that it encourages young men to become more appealing partners.
As Notes on Being a Man gains traction, currently ranking 13th on Amazon’s US best-seller list, responses to Galloway’s message remain mixed. Critics, including sociology professor Steven Roberts from Monash University, challenge his portrayal of men as uniquely burdened, suggesting that such views overlook broader societal issues.
Despite criticism, Galloway continues to assert his beliefs passionately. He acknowledges his sensitivity to feedback, admitting that he has struggled with depression, yet he expresses a growing sense of peace with his life. As discussions around masculinity evolve, Galloway’s insights invite a broader examination of the complexities facing men today and the urgent need for constructive dialogue on male identity and mental health.
