UPDATE: Shelley Kellett, a resident of Vincentia, is urgently raising awareness about the critical warning signs of suicidal distress following her own near-fatal experience in 2019. As Mental Health Month unfolds this October 2023, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs to help others in crisis.
Reflecting on her past, Kellett shares that she was unaware of the significant changes in her thoughts and behaviors that preceded her suicide attempt. “I went from being an active, carefree person to feeling completely broken,” Kellett stated. She experienced overwhelming feelings of despair, coupled with physical symptoms like muscle tension, headaches, and extreme fatigue. “I felt trapped and worthless, despite having a supportive family around me,” she added.
Kellett’s story underscores a vital message: anyone can experience a suicidal crisis, regardless of their background. Since her own struggles, she has transformed her experience into advocacy, working with the Illawarra Shoalhaven Suicide Prevention Collaborative and the Suicide Prevention Action Network. She is dedicated to educating the public on how to recognize and respond to suicidal distress.
Authorities recommend taking immediate action when noticing changes in loved ones. COORDINARE, the South Eastern NSW Primary Health Network, and the Black Dog Institute are offering free suicide prevention training, including the “Recognise and Respond” course, which is a self-directed online program available for anyone concerned about a friend or family member. Kellett urges people to engage in these educational opportunities and emphasizes the importance of initiating conversations about mental health.
“Just ask, ‘Are you thinking about suicide?’ It’s crucial to break the taboo,” Kellett advised. She expressed that many avoid discussing suicide due to fear of saying the wrong thing, but being direct can provide a vital lifeline. “Listening compassionately and non-judgmentally is essential,” she continued, reinforcing that one doesn’t need to have all the answers—just being present can make a significant difference.
Kellett also highlights the importance of encouraging those in distress to seek professional help. She reflects on her own journey toward recovery, noting that acknowledging one’s struggles is a sign of strength. “Don’t do what I did and push through alone. Seek help early,” she cautioned.
As she continues her recovery, Kellett focuses on small, achievable goals, emphasizing the necessity of self-compassion. “Every day is a challenge, but I’m learning to find those little glimmers of hope,” she stated, encouraging others to find what nurtures their well-being, whether it’s family support, maintaining a healthy diet, or engaging in nature.
This Mental Health Month, Kellett’s powerful message is clear: awareness and conversation can save lives. If you or someone you know is struggling, reach out, spark a conversation, and encourage seeking help. It’s not just about recognizing the signs; it’s about fostering an environment where mental health can be openly discussed and treated with compassion.
For more resources on suicide prevention, consider visiting the Illawarra Shoalhaven Suicide Prevention Collaborative or contacting Lifeline for immediate support.
