UPDATE: AFL stars are stepping off the field and into the spotlight, urging men to redefine masculinity in a powerful push against domestic violence. During a family violence prevention forum held in Melbourne on Friday, players like Harris Andrews, co-captain of the Brisbane Lions, and Marc Pittonet of Carlton, emphasized the urgent need for men to take accountability and promote positive change.
Andrews opened the forum with a strong message: “The way I perform on the field each and every week is very different to the way that I’m off the field.” He highlighted his vulnerability, stating, “I’m caring. I’m vulnerable.” These sentiments come as domestic violence rates continue to rise, with at least 74 women killed in Australia due to domestic violence attacks in 2025 alone.
The forum, convened by Chief Justice William Alstergren, included influential figures like Ben Vasiliou, CEO of Man Cave, and Zac Seidler, research director at Movember. They stressed the importance of role models in boys’ lives, asserting that fathers, coaches, and teachers can shape how young men view relationships and gender dynamics. Vasiliou remarked, “These men at the front line… can have the most impact on a boy’s trajectory towards how they treat women.”
The event was facilitated by Victorian Multicultural Commissioner Tarang Chawla, who pointed out troubling trends in how boys are socialized. Chawla noted that societal messages often lead boys to view relationships as games, stating, “Girls are blamed for the pain of men and boys.” This harmful narrative is perpetuated through social media, which Chawla believes will not change significantly with the proposed under-16s social media ban.
Pittonet, reflecting on his youth, shared, “It’s really understanding that what people try to emulate when they’re at school age isn’t just what you do on field, but off the field as well.” He emphasized the need to showcase emotional intelligence and healthy relationships with women as essential components of modern masculinity.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Seidler confirmed that global research shows a shift in men’s views on gender stereotypes, with many believing in equality and the importance of being a protector. However, he cautioned that societal pressure can push men to act contrary to their values.
The forum has taken on heightened significance against the backdrop of increasing domestic violence incidents in Australia. As these prominent players advocate for change, the message is clear: redefining masculinity involves embracing vulnerability and accountability.
For those seeking help, resources are available:
– 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
– Lifeline: 13 11 14
– Men’s Referral Service: 1300 766 491
– National Sexual Abuse and Redress Support Service: 1800 211 028
This urgent call to action aims not only to change perceptions but to save lives. The time for change is now—men everywhere are being called to step up and promote a culture of respect and accountability.
