A panel of prominent figures, including AFL stars and mental health advocates, convened a family violence prevention forum in Melbourne to address the importance of positive male role models in combating violence against women. The event, facilitated by Victorian Multicultural Commissioner Tarang Chawla, featured insights from Brisbane Lions co-captain Harris Andrews, Carlton ruck Marc Pittonet, Man Cave CEO Ben Vasiliou, and Movember research director Zac Seidler.
During the forum, Andrews emphasized the disparity between his on-field persona and his true self. “The way I perform on the field each and every week is very different to the way that I’m off the field,” he stated, highlighting his caring and vulnerable nature outside the sport. This initiative aims to showcase the multifaceted identities of men and promote accountability in fostering healthy relationships.
Chawla pointed out that societal norms often place undue blame on girls for the struggles faced by boys and men. He argued that many boys perceive relationships as a game and are influenced by damaging online content. He expressed concern that the proposed ban on social media for those under 16 would not address the underlying issues contributing to these harmful views.
Pittonet shared his experiences growing up idolizing football players, recognizing the importance of modeling behavior off the field. “It’s really understanding that what people try to emulate when they’re at school age isn’t just what you do on field, but off the field as well,” he noted. He underscored the need to demonstrate vulnerability and emotional intelligence, setting a precedent for healthy interactions with women.
Vasiliou highlighted the significance of micro-sphere role models, such as fathers, brothers, and teachers, who can profoundly influence boys’ attitudes towards women. “These men at the front line can have the most impact on a boy’s trajectory towards how they treat women,” he said.
Dr. Seidler presented findings from global research showing that men’s attitudes toward gender equality are often more progressive than societal expectations suggest. “We know what it means to be a good man,” he remarked. Yet, he noted that societal pressures can lead boys and men to behave in ways that contradict their values.
The urgency of these discussions is underscored by alarming statistics: at least 74 women have been killed in domestic violence incidents in Australia in 2025 alone. The forum aimed not only to raise awareness but also to inspire action among men, encouraging them to reflect on their behaviors and contributions to societal norms.
As the conversation continues, resources such as 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) and Lifeline (13 11 14) remain available for those seeking support. The forum represents a crucial step in promoting a cultural shift towards accountability and respect, providing a platform for men to redefine their roles in society.
